So we got a baby shower invitation, before I could ask my hubby where they are registered he said “oh by the way. NO GIFTS.” Really? I’ve honestly never heard of that before. However it got me to thinking “what is correct baby shower etiquette?” Honestly I felt relieved. Not because I didn’t want to get them anything, but because I don’t even want to have a baby shower. So I felt like someone else was also doing something different, and I was relieved.
Before I go on let me further explain. We already have one son and we had a baby shower for that pregnancy. So it’s not like I haven’t had one before. Our son is 2 and I kept all of his toys, clothes, and pretty much everything else you can think of. So technically I don’t really need much for our second son. Plus with our first son I was an avid couponer and I stocked up on diapers and wipes. My son is 2 now and I still haven’t bought wipes!!
SO WHAT EXACTLY IS BABY SHOWER ETIQUETTE?
When I think of baby shower etiquette I have heard different reasons for why you should have a baby shower. A baby shower is when you get the practical things you need for your baby, it’s the time for you to celebrate the mommy to be, or its the time for you to celebrate the baby. However, I don’t think there is anything wrong for a mom who just doesn’t want to have one.
I remember overhearing a conversation between a group of women once while I was waiting in line to order some food. Apparently they had a friend who was having her third baby in 4 years. They seemed happy for her. Then one woman asked “do we have to get her another gift? She’s had a baby shower for every baby, and they are all girls” I wanted to laugh, but then they would have known I was listening.
However, there isn’t anything wrong with people trying to figure out what is the correct baby shower etiquette. I’m sure some people don’t want to feel like it’s just a present grab.
I feel we are in a different unique situation. Meaning my husband has 5 other guys he is actually close to whose wives are also pregnant. And we are all due around the same time! It’s like these guys had a pregnancy pact. On top of that we recently moved to a new state and I know 2 people here. Traveling for my baby shower is just something I don’t want to have to deal with. I haven’t asked all the other wives what they plan on doing, but I know I am going the non traditional route.
NON TRADITIONAL OPTIONS:
Mommy and friends spa day (which is what my friend suggested when I told her I didn’t want a baby shower.)
Mommy and friends brunch
Baby Sprinkle and only ask for diapers/wipes (you can never go wrong with diapers/wipes!)
Welcome to the world party (after the baby is born, but when you are comfortable having guests.)
SO WHAT IS THE CORRECT THING TO DO?
I don’t think it’s really set in stone. There isn’t a right or wrong thing. I will say that whatever you decide to do mama, make sure it’s because you want to do it. Not because society says you should or shouldn’t be doing it. There was a time when baby shower’s were just for women and we’ve come a long way since then.