The manifestation method is a powerful tool to attract positive and meaningful connections into your life.
For most of my adult life, I had a set group of people I considered friends. I distinctly remember being team “no new friends.” But my oh my I completely changed my tune once we moved to Arizona from Dallas nearly four years ago. Mrs. “team no new friends” found herself lonely and depressed and yearning for a connection to people. I had a difficult time finding a new friend group. I even went as far as trying to figure out how to manifest a friendship.
For the first time in my life, I was actively seeking out new connections. I was trying to make sense of my new life by creating a sense of belonging in my new community.
How do you use the law of attraction for friendship?
The Law of Attraction says that you can begin to manifest meaningful friendships by focusing on positive thoughts, visualizing your ideal friendships, and taking action toward meeting new people. The best way to do this is to remember to believe in yourself and trust the process. I had to remind myself that the first step is new friendships will come when I am ready to receive them.
How to manifest a friendship
So what are the manifestation techniques I felt I should take to start the process of attracting like-minded friends?
Get clear on what you want:
The first thing I did was take some time to reflect on what kind of friendship I wanted to manifest. I had to really sit and think about it because, at my big age, I had to make sure to set my intentions. It was like creating a vision board for a new best friend. I have recently started journaling to work on my mental health. So, I decided to turn these questions into journal prompts. What qualities do I want in a friend? What kinds of activities do I want to do together?
Now that I am a mother my priorities have changed. I’m not just interested in someone I can hang with for dinner and drinks but it would be amazing if we could possibly have play dates as well. Because something that has recently become a factor for me is that childcare isn’t always readily available. I wrote down my thoughts and intentions in my journal.
Visualize your ideal friendship:
Close your eyes and visualize yourself spending time with your ideal kind of friends. For me, this means using my imagination to create a mental picture of the kind of amazing friends I would like to have in my life. This often happens when I’m scrolling through social media and I see memes or videos. I start thinking to myself how I would love to be on a girl’s trip or enjoying brunch with some good friends. A severe case of FOMO starts setting in. I start imagining what it would feel like to have a group of friends who shares my interests and core values. By doing this it makes it easier to get a clear image of what you want in your mind. You might even start to recognize opportunities to meet potential new friendship circles.
Practice gratitude:
Be thankful for the current friendships you already have in your life. Something that I was noticing was I found myself saying “I don’t have any friends.” When in reality I still had my core group of friends. I loved my old friends, but I didn’t have anyone near me since I moved away. So, I was on a mission to make new friends in the city I had moved to. I couldn’t forget about the amazing people I already have in my life. Whenever I need them, they pick up the phone and listen to me even if they can’t be there. I am still grateful for my friends who are in different places in their lives. My current relationships are still very much important to me.
Take action:
You have to put yourself out there. This was by far the hardest part for me. In order to manifest a friendship, you need to take action toward making new connections. This is probably the most important step to making friends with similar interests. I know that I am on social media and even this blog, but being social is really hard for me in person. Getting out of my comfort zone and attending social events has been one of my goals. I honestly believe that I have friendship anxiety. I have put myself out there before and been burned. However, I’m determined to put myself out there again! I even went as far as reaching out to Black women I admire online to go out for lunch!
Be open and authentic:
Authenticity is key to building lasting friendships. By being true to yourself and showing up as your authentic self you create a space for genuine connection and trust to develop. When you are initially making new friends, it can be hard to open up to people and build trust. However, you find yourself gravitating to people who appreciate you for who you are. This leads to more meaningful conversations and a greater sense of mutual understanding and support. By being yourself and being an active listener, you can build trust and mutual respect.
Trust the process:
The final step is sitting back and trusting the process. Manifesting a friendship can take time, so be patient and trust the process. Keep an open mind and heart, and stay focused on your intentions.
Positive affirmations for making friends:
Practice positive self-talk and focus on positive energy when it comes to making friends. Avoid negative self-talk and negative thoughts that may hinder your ability to connect with others. Words have power. You have to genuinely believe that you deserve friendship. Dealing with anxiety and depression sometimes made it hard for me to believe that I’m worthy of having positive relationships and true friends in my life. Affirming positive statements to myself daily helped, such as:
- I am open to meeting new friends
- I am deserving of meaningful connections
- I radiate positivity and attract like-minded individuals.
- I am confident in myself and my ability to connect with others.
- I deserve to have fulfilling and supportive friendships in my life.
- I am worthy of love and connection
- I attract people who appreciate me for who I am.
- I am grateful for the loving friends in my life and excited to form new relationships.
- I am a good listener and a great friend
- I am comfortable being myself and embracing my uniqueness.
- I trust in the universe to bring the right types of people into my life at the right time.
How to manifest a friendship for mothers
My loneliness and depression were weighing heavy on me. I knew that in order for me to be a better wife and mom I had to have a life outside of my husband and kids. I had to start making time for myself that wasn’t about taking care of others. Motherhood can be isolating. I never realized how important it would be for me to have adult friendships. However, spending time with close friends allows me the opportunity to relax, recharge, and engage in activities that bring me joy.
Remember that the manifestation process is not about manipulating people or situations to get what you want. It’s about attracting positive and meaningful connections into your life through your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
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