So I’m sitting here trying to type. I look at my sweet baby boy, he has his hands down his pants and pee going down his legs. I told you guys in my last post that I’ve learned stuff about raising boys. He’s at an age where he is curious about his body and his hands are always in his pamper. Initially I was freaking out, but after much research I found out that self exploration is very natural. My only issue is that he does it at inappropriate times! Courtney and I have learned how to handle Santana’s self exploration.
One of the problems I was having was that I would always overreact when I would see his hands in his diaper. I don’t know about your kids, but as soon as he sees he has gotten a reaction then he does it even more. He would start doing it just to see what and if I would do anything to him. So we started ignoring him at home.
REDIRECT HIS ATTENTION:
I started noticing that when Santana had “downtime” his hand would end up in his diaper. It was like he was bored so why not? Whenever I notice that he just doesn’t have anything to do I get on the carpet with him and start engaging him. It’s also a good time for me to read to him or start talking to him in Spanish.
DON’T USE PHYSICAL FORCE:
The one thing we try not to do is smack his hand or hit him period when we see him. We don’t want him to be ashamed of his body or think self exploration is wrong. We also don’t want to shame him in public. We will however let him know that it is something that should occur in private.
At bedtime Santana touches his self, even while he is sleeping. He does it subconsciously and doesn’t even wake up. Since he still co-sleeps I often feel it when he does. When I started noticing he was doing it I would look at him to see if he was awake. In the morning however Courtney and I would always wake to a wet spot in the bed and pee on us. We decided to put him in onesies, or footed pajamas to sleep in so that he couldn’t reposition his penis and wet the bed.
Self exploration is very natural in children.
However as long as they are doing it in age appropriate ways we as parents don’t have anything to worry about. I’m sure some of you mom’s have noticed the same behaviors in your children. Don’t worry mama’s it’s okay! Self exploration is apart of self discovery. If you are still feeling conflicted about this then please talk to your pediatrician.
Are any of you going through this now? If so what methods are working for you to ease this transition?
Until Next Time!